“If a bloke hasn’t got enough money to pay for a meal for me,” she says, “then what kind of boyfriend will he make? Her attitude is similar to that of most Vietnamese women.
Even though both the male and female in a relationship get benefit, it remains the duty of the man to pay for everything, something that in Vietnamese we call tinh phi or the cost of love.
Having a relationship with someone from a different cultural background is fraught with difficulty.
Can love work between couples from different language backgrounds and different cultures?
“For me, sex is like food and drink,” said Gill, a British university professor who I once studied with in Vietnam. If you don’t eat or drink you will starve or die of thirst. For westerners, sex is a normal demand in any relationship, no matter how casual.