My hope is that, in reading these, you’ll get a little introspective, and maybe come up with your own tips and tricks. Luckily, I eventually realized that there's no "right" way to date, and that I need to find happiness within myself, no partner needed.It’s Not You is where I write to calm the voices in my head — and hear from all of you.
Plenty of women’s magazines and websites (like, admittedly, the one you’re on right now) make their nut doling out anecdotes and tips that single women in desperate need of a clue will cling to.
Most of the time, the advice is written by people who’ve found partners and can now condescend to tell you exactly what to do to be as blissfully paired as they are (or, at least, that’s what it feels like).
“You are always thinking that there is someone better on the next swipe,” she says.
“Or after your one ‘okay’ date you might get straight back to Tinder without giving someone date number two.” Elle, a 33-year-old creative from east London, says apps have replaced the days of risk-taking because of unrealistic expectations of perfection.
But on a more serious note, her self-esteem began to be affected when she found the lack of first dates developing into seconds disheartening.