I don't use Deaf with a capital D because those who use Deaf with a capital D are part of a specific community, with sign language as their primarily means of communication.
The differences have come out of different personality types and levels of self-awareness.
Men who think they're swell in bed, but don't communicate with me are usually real disappointments.
If it's in the act, I'll usually just say "nope." There's really no need to articulate why it isn't working right in the moment, since it kills the mood.
Woman C: Whether I have cochlear implants on or not, I just tell them.
Woman B: I honestly don't have a preference between uppercase and lowercase d/Deaf.