Someone rightly pointed out that part of what put men off was my desire to correct things they said that were inaccurate or participate in verbal sparring (I appreciate a good debate). Or is it a matter of combining my intelligence with enough social leverage to not make it my main feature?
I've reigned that in with good results but I want a man who actually likes my intelligence. This isn't the first time this question has shown up in the comments of this blog - or in my e-mail.
If this doesn't make sense, consider the same point by analogy: a man needs to feel admired and respected in a relationship in the same way that a woman needs to feel adored and desired.
A woman's traditional role is to be the mother of the couple's children, and in order to fulfill that role she needs to be beautiful and radiant enough to attract her man - to make him want her sexually.
Men know that their role in a relationship is to be the more powerful one, and to use their power to protect and provide for their woman and children.