Today on the internet there are a vast number of chat rooms, forums and message boards all targeted to those with an interest in the Dominant submissive (D/s) Lifestyle.
These forums target all aspects of the Dominant submissive Lifestyle, whether Dominant submissive, Master slave, BDSM Top or bottom, Gorean Master slave, or a multitude of other variations of different types of power exchange relationships.
They're going to understand a submissive or slave, especially one new to the Lifestyle is going to be hesitant, shy and uncertain.
They're not going to offer ultimatums such as, "if you don't do this, you're obviously not a submissive or slave".
The first and most obvious, but hardest to do, slow down!