I highly suggest seeking out an al-anon meeting near you.
I know it might seem intimidating, but its worth it. Reply wow this sounds like the story of my life, i too feel hopeless and he blames me for his problem even though he had this problem before we met. i don’t feel good enough, and my self esteem has gone to shit.
There may be a point in this process where you simply need to leave to preserve your sanity, no matter how much you want to stay and support your husband.
I am totally against alcohol because my father drank a lot of beer as we were growing up. Reply You’re not an idiot and you don’t have to go through this alone.
Reply I married what I believe to be an alcoholic almost two years ago. Believe me, I’ve seen this story play out a thousand times.
At a certain point, you have to look out for your own well-being, and the well-being of your children – especially the well-being of your children. Obviously you shouldn’t consider leaving the second you realize “my husband is an alcoholic”, but at some point it becomes the only right choice.
You may not be at this stage yet, but do know that this is an option that you may one day have to take in order to protect yourself and your children.
Remember what I said earlier about alcoholism being a family disease?