So people become less likely to meet to get to know one another casually. Even though the times required to get around in NYC are comparable, the perceived effort of taking the subway or hopping in a cab is much less than driving yourself through snarls of traffic. Lack of pedestrian culture reduces opportunities for casual contact.Hence people there are much more willing to go places and meet up. Whenever I visit Boston, New York or London, I bump into friends – on the sidewalk, on the subway, in the parks.
The higher energy required for making a date means that it happens less often. Transportation challenges make even the best-intentioned people flaky.
Traffic in LA is unpredictable; as a result, even the best-intentioned people end up being late more often than they wish.
For the first two years, I just assumed I had suddenly gotten ugly and stupid.
Then I heard multitudes of other people voicing similar experiences.
A peculiar energy permeates a town when so many people are trying to advance an ego-based agenda – – which may not be the most conducive energy for building meaningful, lasting relationships. I’ve already written another article about dating actors, so I’ll make this brief: dating people with uncertain finances, erratic schedules and fragile egos is a challenge requiring saintlier patience than most people possess. Nightlife shuts down at 1am and you have to drive your own butt home afterwards.